Covid and the ensuing chaos hitting most of the world is probably the greatest opportunity you have had in your lifetime to sit back and review the course of your life to date.
Yes there are people who will have spent the enforced keeping still to fritter their energy away, but when SHTF that globally and society begins to disintegrate on all kinds of pretexts we are forced to take a step back and think .. what now?
Millions have gotten furlongs or totally lost their jobs, their business any kind of “security” they felt they had That’s definitely not cool, and now if they managed to survive that new sequence of chaos even more but if we are honest not necessarily unexpected.
Welcome to reality- The only constant is change and
this one hit most people on the back of the head.
But it’s not all: as some parts of the world are now starting to realize that the first killer was not necessarily the one presented as such, the real death toll is starting to become apparent.
Casualties to mental health, stress over stress , fear over fears whipped up on a daily basis, physical health through imposed inactivity, financial health with global crushes of an economy that was already moribond, personal, educational, businesses.. nothing is spared and it’s only the beginning of this enormous overreaction.
and we won’t even talk about the exploitation of people’s good, human feelings as seen not just in America .
So you are worried and it’s understandable.
And yet, the world is made of all kind of ups and down- It’s not because we haven’t seen that many dramas in our part of the world that there aren’t really huge ones taking place just out of sight .
So take the sensible approach :Don’t see it as an end to an era in your life
See it as the door opened to manifesting the next era, with a greater amount of awareness, responsibility and control over what you want and do not want. The idea is to make your life fulfilling, meaningful and enjoyable- no matter whatm because the only way your life becomes enjoyable is when you are doing something for people or a cause you are irrationally passionate about.
Let’s use this anxiety to turn
- towards getting things done -now
- Towards making sure that you and your family never again be in the situation of having to rely on a paycheck someone else won’t or can no longer give you.
- Towards making sure that you put all your habitual tendencies of making life more complicated that it needs to be in the fire of honest recognition and step by step changing.
- and whilst we are at it, let’s also make sure that what happens now really fits what we are great at and we enjoy most doing !
We tend to believe in some magical potion, that, once you find it makes all your inner crap go away and gets you on the victory lap effortlessly. Well obviously it does not happen that way ( hint it would be known by now and sold on amazon for a fabulous price)
So how do we do this ?
- What are we looking to achieve?
- How do we define it for each one of us?
- How do we make sure each one is following the steps to get from severe disorientation to a clearer path and start getting a new life plan in place?
First we are looking to achieve pivoting from the precarious situation you are in into one where you have control.
You have clarified for yourself where you wanted to be and how it looks like when you can say – my life is meaningful and I bring what I know I can to the world.
Not everyone is at the same stage, but everyone goes through the same stages !
Hence getting things down in a small group over a short time with plenty of help and support .. This particular challenge is for those who are unsure of what they want, how to express the feelings they want to trigger, they don’t know how to turn it into a meaningful activity and they are stuck because fear of not been worthy, not been capable, and the whole lot of related fears have prevented them from moving along with single easier step.
It’s for those who know they can do it but often feel they are drowning in a teacup…
It’s also for those who have fallen into procrastination for all kind of reasons but a similar result:
You are stuck in deep mud and you need a hand to regain control and momentum .
How do we turn this urgency into a
- 10 days to get things cleared up, moving and procrastination-confusion free.
- Get a grip on the Inner Turmoil That’s Preventing You from getting moving.
- Understand where you want to go and how you get there in the most economically rewarding fashion.
- Work out the steps which are needed to get into first gear and not stall on the six one straight out of the gate.
- Put the lid on all self deprecating habits once and for all
- Understand the tech skills you need to get any project really on track or make it so much better still.
- Get a supporting tribe of similarly motivated peeps working feverishly but intelligently with you towards the same goal.
- Have someone – me – by the side to answer questions, and get you to break down all your resistance?This is what at this half time in the 2020 game which has been pretty rough so far, I have prepared for us all.
From the desk of Liane Montagne, nestled somewhere in a tiny village high in the French Pyrenees
You know what the saddest thing is about most of us entrepreneurs? we can’t get out of our own mind.
We can’t stop the ideas pouring out of the pot but until we ran quite a few races, get knocked out, punched in the face, trampled over and learn to get up with a smile and dust it off we have no idea what could be happening over and over again
In other words we don’t know what we don’t know until we hit the proverbial brick wall
And we yoyo from sublime ideals to pushing ourselves in the dust, rushing around like maniacs or dumping our sorrows in dark corners of the sofa, all the while though wasting the absolute unique good that never comes back: Time
Should we rush because time is both terribly long and terribly short?
Should we wait until wisdom falls from the sky and translate itself into THE perfect plan for what you should, ought or want to do?
Neither nor, of course but it’s easier said than done.
In a recent survey I asked members of a particularly active Facebook group what they thought was holding them back from living the life they dream about.
Considering many were still in “lockdown” the responses were really interesting…
Helplessness in front of perceived procrastination, all kind of fears, self doubt and lack of confidence, no clarity about the next steps to take, lack of technical knowledge or business acumen… there I always something that seems to prevent us from taking the next step..
(I reproduced part of it in my fb page see bottom of article )
You can sometimes see when there are mindset issues with yourself but mostly you’ll see it in others
And the usual reaction is that there has to be some missing formula being kept from you, makes everybody else but you successful.
Yes you are a olympic champion at comparing yourself with others and that becomes a key component of the story you are telling yourself:” I am not like them, I dont know as much as them, I dont have the money to do xyz”.
So you either throw yourself in a frenzy of activity without understanding what their ROI is or you just find a bench to slump over an do your procrastination hero training.
Honestly you can’t get anywhere if your mind is constantly taking up the space that should be dedicated to putting the pieces of your activity together, one step at a time.
You can’t work for yourself if your mind is in such a state of disarray that it never settles down – it keeps sucker punching you whenever you get up and try to make something of yourself.
I went through so many emotional rollercoasters in the course of my life and it use to hold me back until I realized .. it’s all ok and the point is NOT to try and “control “or “eliminate “the emotional upheaval, but rather to become aware of what they are doing, how they affect us and develop into what I often picture as Mama in the playground attitude.
What’s that? well in bygone days, where people were not hysterical at the sight of a speck of dust or mud, toddlers and children were allowed to play .. gulp .. outside ! And that meant they fell down (without a helmet!) rolled about in said dust and mud and thus develop a healthy immune system. Amazingly they survived to become our parents, brothers and sisters or grown up kids.
Nowadays we are becoming physically weaker because our homes are hyper sanitized so that the minutest bacteria can cause big havoc, but this is part of a longer debate; however what IS relevant is that we are doing the same to our minds as we have done to our kids. Over protecting , over thinking. over worrying and taking each natural ups and down in life as a personal attack on our “integrity “and “rights”.
The result is an army of hyper sensitive people who consider themselves sick, whereas they are, like you and me merely human. and going through the pangs of personal growth. The only thing is that instead of comforting them in the knowledge that this s all perfectly normal , we are now making a new race of “I must be sick because I dont get what I want straight away” bunch of people, and this is definitely neither healthy nor helpful to those people.
Again, still in my youth, people read the classics and understood that what was written over 2000 to 3000 years ago were exactly the emotional states we are feeling today. So let’s rejoice for once, we are “normal” human beings and it seems that dealing with one’s own emotions is pretty much part of the deal of being human.
So once you grow in the realization that there is absolutely nothing wrong with waves of emotions whipping you up the summit of mount Olymp and down the trenches of hell, once you can become an observer that this indeed is the lot of ALL of us, and therefore there is absolutely nothing abnormal about emotions per say- you can move onto the next step which is to learn how to become even more zen watchers and cool handlers of both extremes – extreme highs as well as devastating lows- Both been as dangerous one as the other . And once you realize that everyone is going through the same processes, it is again perfectly acceptable to recognize that what applies to the whole of mankind, surely can apply to you without making you the “odd one out” or the “failure” or [insert here whatever story you keep telling yourself] .
It means getting to know yourself, get to know the triggers that start off the roller coasters and not get caught up in the irresistible desire to jump on the band wagon. You are no longer “fighting” the emotions , but, because you recognize their unavoidable nature , you eventually take it as a given of life, pretty much the same as night follows day which follows night. BTW, this is a big part of what I encourage you to recognize and learn to ride during those 10 days where we get a bit ahead with self knowledge and releasing pretty limiting ideas we hold on to without realizing, so that we can then figure out stuff we want to do with our lives in pretty cool ways.
It is perhaps necessary at this stage to add a warning. If you are of the opinion that nothing should ever hurt, that everything should fall from the sky by birthright in your lap, that you are in some way different from the rest and have different emotions than the rest of us, do not try and read on, this blog is not for you, the programs are not for you and there is nothing I can bring you to make your life better in the sense you wish to see it. But if you are willing consider that we are all in the same learning patterns, we are all asking ourselves similar questions about the meaningfulness of life and how to organize our own to make other people life better, provide them with solutions and fulfill their needs , then perhaps it’s worth reading on.
So having spent well over a decade in retreats and having been able to help quite few people get back on their own two feet with a little more ease than before they started I thought looking at all the chaos unfolding that I would like to share the little I am aware of with you .
Honestly it’s Time for a Major Shift, because things have not even started to go pear shape yet …
We witness everyday more of chaos unfolding, more people loosing it physically, mentally, professionally, in their personal relationship, in their communities , in nations and on the planet as a whole. There is a lot more madness to come and you already know it..
You’re so ready for this. and you are looking for just the thing, that will get you on the track to deep , authentic pivot from inside out, to release your inner longings, your thirst for .. whatever you know you can bring to the table but have no idea where to look for a way to express it , start manifesting it and more.
But you’ve been reading tons of self help books and uplifting blog posts and none of it has worked, has it? Well, maybe a little helped.
But none of those lessons were specific to you. It was not designed to help YOU find your voice, recognize your inner voice and highlight the mess you hold on to ( like all of us BTW!)
They presented a different set of problems – or ones that didn’t take into account the special circumstances you face in running your own life or trying to create or adjust your own business to increasingly wild and unchartered times and territories which are unfolding today .
You need someone who has been there, done that – and succeeded with having spent over half a century been a student of life, running successful businesses whilst been a mother and grand mother, a eternal rebel to brain washing “political correctness ” and thriving where most falter because of remarkable people she was able to connect with in the course fo those years. In this case yours truly.
You may get frustrated when successful people say these things to you:
- Just take action.
- Get over it.
- Don’t let it bother you.
- You’ll figure it out.
- It’s no big deal. Of course It is a big deal to you – all of it, and rightly so!
and when others make light of what you’re going through, it does nothing to give you specific answers. specific ahaha moments where you get yourself to realization of what YOU can do and how. – because you start blaming yourself, thinking everyone else has it all together but you.
Relax . You’re getting all tied up in knots for nothing about that!
You know, people who seem to have it all together and come up with such remarks , they don’t have anything together. Trust me I have been working with them for decades as well.. no the secret lies in the fact that they simply learned how to succeed in spite of . sometimes ironically because of- what’s going on – they learned to fix certain things and manage life with those they have no control over. They got the fact that emotions and stuff will crop up at the least desirable times , but they have learnt knowingly or not , not to get unseated by those rodeos of life . When they say you got this, they are actually very right, but not in the sense you see this. Because they are unwittingly hitting upon another big secret – We really have everything we need already , we just don’t know most of the time what we have in the drawers !
And when you have gone through the 10 days challenge, you too will start to recognize the process , how not to get caught up in the mechanisms and find the keys to your inner wealth .
I want you to sit there for a minute – no, really – do this. After reading this paragraph I want you to close your eyes and think about your emotional reaction to everything going on with you right now – your success, your failure, your relationships, your doubts, your hopes, your fears, your self care – all of it.
Are you proud? Ashamed? Hopeless? confused, overwhelmed? Scared?
That feeling you experienced right in your gut? That’s the result of your outdated, terrified, wobbly mind in the face of stuff you think you cant do anything about. But just think – if you can’t do anything about rain and low clouds on a summer day where you wanted to go to the beach, you CAN do something about how you let it affect you..
and when we start to get that life is about riding the waves rather than trying to remove the oceans, things take a rather nice turn for the better !
And I’m about to help you see how you can turn 10 days into possibly the most eye opening and pivot in your life so far
Just think it through, before signing up, make sure you commit I don’t want you sending any money unless you’re really going to be all in fully all in ! not for me – but for yourself.
I’m not gonna lie, either – this isn’t going to be some “huggy, lovey dovey, let me coddle you” challenge.
It will dig deep. It might just remove the blanket from your eyes = gulp again . and probably from under your feet …and start having the same view as Bob Behnken and Douglas Hurley got .. once their guts settled down after the merlin engines episode and realizing they actually made it to the ISS..
They did not make it by just dreaming about it
They did not even make it by training intensely to get physically and mentally fit for the trip
They did not make it by freezing whilst reaching the white room
They did not make it by been very aware they could blow up anytime between launch and safe recovery and still pushed on
Ok , you are going to be the Dougs and Ben of your challenge
It’s going to be gridding, digging, rubbing, pushing, pulling and everything in between , heart and gut wrenching
and then at one point you ‘re going to be gliding over your own limitations
You are going to pick up the kind of view , the kind of vision only a handful of astronauts ever get
The earth will be flying below you with oceans, lands, rivers, clouds formation you only ever heard about in scientific mags. But this time , it will be you having this overall experience, you connecting the dots between what goes on in your mind and gut (literally as they are totally connected!) . you’ll realize that there is a whole new, quasi infinite , totally unexplored world above the cloud cover, where your only limitation is your ability to imagine..
So as you read that far, or are like me heading straight for the end of the page , the best next thing you can do for yourself is clicking either above or below on the links to check out what you will get from taking part in the challenge
All 10 days as they are planned and the prep needed to make sure you are flight ready.
Questions? SpaceX spare suit?
get in touch and ask
But this is I know you get it neither for everybody nor for a large group .
Because when you see the program, you will get that there is no possibility to work with that kind of breadth with a large group