How Your Feelings Affect Your Habits
Have you ever noticed now your feelings can affect your daily habits? For example if you grew up in a home where your parents always argued, you may develop a fear of relationships. You may think it is perfectly normal for adults to constantly argue. If you have been surrounded by money issues, then this subject can always make you fearful or angry.
A habit is just a set of steps that you do repeatedly, so you can see how negative feelings and thoughts can affect this. A child may grow up expecting that they will never have money. So they don’t bother taking steps to counteract this. Instead of learning how to save or budget, they accept that they won’t have money when they are older.
The point here is to not let your negative feelings affect your efforts into trying to make changes. First you have to understand what it is you want out of life. Do you want to own your first home? Do you want to have a happy marriage? Or do you want to go to college?
Whatever your goal is write it down and then figure out the steps you need to achieve this. How much money you need for a down payment for a home, for example. Then start thinking good thoughts about your choice. Be positive that you will save enough for your down payment. That you will get accepted into the college of your choice, or find the person of your dreams.
Now that you have a plan of action you need to form the habits to achieve your goals. This can include learning how to put money aside weekly. Or it might involve taking a night class so you can get accepted to college.
As you start doing these things repeatedly they will become part of your daily routine, and will form a habit. Before you know it you will be saving regularly without thinking twice.
Losing weight requires the forming of new habits. You need to eat smaller portions of healthier food to achieve your weight loss goals. You may have already tried to lose weight unsuccessfully. This usually happens because your mindset is not positive. You may think that you will never lose those 20 pounds or that you will still feel the same as you do now. If you can get passed these negative feelings and turn them into positive ones, your chances of success will improve. Start thinking about how great you will feel when you can fit into that little black dress again.
So if you aren’t that happy with your current life, start working on changing the way you feel about yourself, and about others. This small change of mind can lead to huge improvements in your life.
How to Determine and Implement Your One Goal
When you sleep, you dream. Even if you don’t remember those dreams when you wake up, you do still have them. The thing about dreams is that we have them one at a time. They don’t overlap. They are content to wait in line and be taken one at a time.
Your goals should be like your dreams—one at a time. Here are a few tricks on how you can decide on your next goal.
Find the ONE goal. It might be that the reason people make nebulous resolutions instead of New Year’s Goals is that a goal is a big thing and can be overwhelming. But losing the big picture means losing the prize.
Ask yourself these questions:
Why are you doing what you’re doing? The why provides motivation even when you’re discouraged. Knowing the why will also help clarify your goal.
Next year, what achievement from this year will have the most significant impact on your life and get you closest to achieving your goals? If you’re looking to become healthier, this might be becoming a non-smoker. If you’re looking to change careers, it might be going back to school for more training.
What takes your full attention while you’re doing it? Where does your passion lie? Are you consumed by cars? Perhaps being a mechanic is what you need to investigate.
What do you believe that is worth doing that maybe other people wouldn’t? That is a question designed to give insight into your personality. In the 1960s Rosey Grier played pro football for the Giants and later for the LA Rams. He was 6’5” and 300 pounds. He famously passed the time between plays knitting. It was his passion. What makes you so passionate that you don’t mind standing alone to do it? What drives you or from what do you take comfort? How can that be a part of the goal? Or can it become the goal?
Translate your goal into a number. Numbers are easier to remember. What number? Consider your goal is to become an ex-smoker. If you smoke a pack per day at $5 per pack, that’s 5 X 365 or $1,825 spent each year on cigarettes. That’s a good number. Call it $2,000 by the time you factor in all those trips to the gas station for cigarettes. Does that number make the goal real?
Keep your eyes on the prize. Get out a sheet of paper. Write that number down in big, bold, colorful numbers. Use crayon if you like. Post that number where you can see it. Often.
Learn to prioritize your goals. By doing so, you will find it easier to pick the one that means the most to you right now. Then put your focus solidly on that particular goal until you get to where you want to go.