Hard to know what to focus on
I have lost or can’t manage to Focus is a recurring theme we hear even more since the Big confusion started .
As it happens it is part of a Challenge starting next week ( at the time of writing!) where we get rid of all which makes no sense in our time table and replace it with a satisfying line of stuff we both love to do and make sense for creating or enhancing what we are doing .. more on that a it later .
Right now it’s back to this difficulty we have and if you are struggling with this focus question too, I really get this because it is part of being spontaneous Creative and rebel!
So now we got that out of the way in a funny sort of way
The focus should not be on what to focus on but on what result you want to live and experience, trigger and enjoy.
For example if you say should I do this or that or maybe not this you are weighing the ” thing” in your mind rather than what it will trigger in your life.
If you can turn the story around and say hey this is how I want to live this is what I want to experience with my family life is not a not a simple black and white nor a single string guitar so when you play one and it does not give you the melody you want to live with you change the cord and swap them around!
You then realize that it’s okay to add a few more and it still makes a nice sound like the one you like to listen to. What is it got to do with “it is hard to focus on anything these days”? well when you start with a lot of options then you are confused.
When you concentrate on the other hand on the ONE result you want to achieve you can work backwards and see
- if any of the options that you have in mind will lead to that result and
- you can also find out how long it will take for that result to manifest if you are using that single idea that you are examining so
As you go through this process you will realize that many of your ideas however nice they sound will not give you the result that you want to achieve it is therefore very easy to put them aside and not have to concentrate nor get completely confused and overwhelmed with them.
It’s important not to confuse having a crush on an idea and been in love with it !
People like to speak about an idea ROI, which probably is true in some instance, but difficult to figure out if you are drowned in brain fog. I like to think about ideas in terms of how happy I am when I am conceiving them, how I see them unfolding and bringing me the outcome I will fret about till I accomplish it.
Motivation? perhaps, but above all life is about doing things that harmonize with your “Happiness Parameters”, because when you learn to define your “happiness parameters” and use them to define what you chose to do or not , you are at the peak of your emotional, psychological and physical wellness, you are naturally creative, naturally fearless, your confidence goes up and you no longer fret about what people think
Bottom line, whatever you do will bring a lot of benefit to those who come in contact with you, because you are in your zone and the freshness of spontaneity naturally oozes from you.
Does it mean you will have no distractors? – of course not no more than there will be no more rain or no more storms. But the way you will live through it means that you acknowledge the pains of those who display their suffering in antagonism without it having the power to kick you off course and destroy your own focus.
But it is not the only way to deal with finding out what to focus on!
Someone recently was wondering what to do with the many ideas and activities that she had and she did not know which to choose to do and leave, whether she would be choosing wisely , “miss something out”(The famous FOMO* syndrome)
This person is very artsy loves drawing and painting but at the same time started a clothing brand which had troubles taking off. She didn’t know which direction she should take because creating a brand takes time , painting takes time and finding clients for both .. takes time
She felt that she could not do her art whilst she was busy with making clothes . with a guilt feeling dropping one for the other, so my suggestion to her was very simple :
In fact. when you sit back and reflect on the creative process, there are no contradictions between her to apparently conflicting, time consuming interests. How ?
If you think about it …creatively instead of going a conventional way of creating a collection, selling a cap or a T-shirt for seven or $20 she can create a unique approach to design
Working with really motivated people, she first offers a consultation where her customers can choose one of her existing designs and a range of pieces they would like to see that design adapted to. It’s a unique approach that starts with a consultation – think even consultation at a distance ! – for a minimum of $ 1500 to $ 3000. It’s exciting for the client, exciting for her and you can even envisage an upsell where she designs a complete new piece of art which will be used on the different items of clothing !
Next she creates the pieces tailored made and each item has a premium price too.
Instead of struggling both with an impossible or unnecessary choice, she ends up using all her skills into a seamless, deeply satisfying and fulfilling experience that she shares with the clients in a financially rewarding way as well !
From been stuck mentally and financially on choices which do not need to be made, she then ends up with a mega ROI of several 1000%. Pretty smart
How cool is that ?
Bottom line, there is no need to stay stuck in conventional thinking patterns, because when you start from the end result which in her case was using her art and creating beautiful pieces of clothing to bring her financial stability and happiness , a little thought was able to marry the 2 ideas and kick start what will hopefully be a very rewarding new period for her .
- If you too are stuck on not knowing what to do when you . don’t know what to do, come and join the 10 days all hands to th deck challenge starting on June 1st next week . During that time we clear up where you are stuck, how to clean the deck from unwanted tasks which are burdening you without bringing anything to your life, and concentrate on creating a rhythm to turn all your ideas into a coherent and rewarding activity.
Not only thinking about it but definitely using the time together to create what you need to get , pivot or make what ever you are doing even better, sleeker and more enjoyable with the minimum amount of fuss and a little group of like minded people who are on the same track as you .
To get to the challenge click here.
- What activity
- Setting it up
- defining your best customers
- Creating the content
- choosing the service or product or improving your existing ones
- dealing with mind stuff that gets in the way
- establishing useful habits in the way you work and get stuff done
- kick the old procrastination in the backside by understanding why you get stuck on not doing something and replacing it with what really makes you tick
and plenty of other things you can only do in an intimate group with a like minded tribe of passionate people ready to pull their sleeves and show up for results – fast.
The key I find more and more is to put your skills together without conflicts and finding a way to create momentum whilst establishing a rewarding routine . that’s why the 10 days challenge could be all you need to roll up your sleeves and move from dream to done !
That’s all for me today I hope you have enjoyed this don’t forget to leave comments and follow me on Facebook Twitter and LinkedIn bye
*FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out
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