Joy is Yours To Birth and Maintain Whatever The Circumstances
As sure as the sun rises and sets each day, you will have periods in your life when things are just not going your way. In reality, life is basically a constant fluctuation of emotional highs and lows.
Feeling miserable or angry
or highly motivated
Well we know that we go through all these and much more even in a single day.
If you’re facing some life challenges, it can be hard to remember that it’s normal to have obstacles crop up from time to time. Everyone has setbacks, disappointments, and tough times.
But going through a rough patch doesn’t have to spoil your life.
Or rob you from feeling joy without going on a guilt trip because everyone else is feeling anxious or miserable
The key to thriving in the face of adversity is how you respond to the obstacles in your path.
Decide to embrace the obstacle and still leave space for daily life happy moments and joy.
If you’re having a tough time, it can be easy to feel helpless, even that you’re a victim.
But it’s up to you to rise to the challenge and decide that you won’t be overwhelmed.
Choosing to take control and embrace your challenge is the first step in overcoming it. Look your obstacle square in the face and resolve to meet it.
It helps to be OK with discomfort.
It’s the first step to disarming that joy killer;
The proof that you’re embracing your obstacle is acknowledging that it doesn’t feel good.
It can feel uncomfortable, heavy, even painful. There are lots of life experiences that hurt at the time but end up being for your best and highest good.
Think of ordinary life when you decide to rain for a marathon , go to the dentist or start public speaking, even facing your debtors, you feel so much better once you’ve faced the worst.
Remember it won’t last forever. Don’t shrink from the bad feelings. You can ride them out by recognizing their transient nature.
While most of our time is spent in the fairly even, mundane state of emotional normalcy, this is broken up by the peaks of the best of times and unfortunately, the valleys when nothing is going right.
While hardly anyone ever seeks information on how to deal with the best moments of their lives, handling the lows can be a difficult task. Today we live in very troubled times, a pandemic has taken over most of the world, and people are being affected in many profound and very real ways.
Everything that surrounds getting through this pandemic is based in suffering and pain, its just the nature of the beast. Death, isolation, fear, facing the unknown and grief and loss can strip of us our joy and may lead to depression.
While you cannot control what happens outside your door, you CAN control yourself. There are things you can do to maintain a positive and even joyful mindset.
Here are three ways to achieve just that :
Surround Yourself With The Right People
It is often said that we are the sum total of the five people we surround ourselves with most often.
If that is the case, making sure you get the right people around you, especially when going through a difficult period, is critical to hold on to your joy. Often times when life is really beating us up, we retreat into the solitude of our home, wanting to throw the covers of our heads and be left alone with our thoughts.
Make no mistake; sometimes periods of solitude are healthy and necessary. Right now, isolation is the norm as we fight a health crisis. However, when you find yourself in a really low spot, robbed of your joy, connecting with those who make you happy is mandatory.
Although it may seem obvious in concept, avoiding people who have the opposite effect can sometimes be the real battle.
Negative individuals are especially important to keep out of your life when you are already struggling to find joy in your current situation.
You can stay connected during Shelter In Place orders, when you are facing highly unusual circumstances .
Technology has seen to that.
Face Time on iPhones and Video calls on Android
Skype, Zoom,A simple phone call, A what’s app call or even ..
Email or the good old fashioned Text
You don’t have to face your obstacles alone. It can make all the difference to have people around you who are supportive, who’ll stick by you and cheer you on when you want to give up.
If you have a cheer squad, you’ll find that extra level of energy to help get you through.
And you’ll be there for your friends and colleagues when they’re facing their challenges.
Once you’re part of a team who have each other’s backs, none of you will have to face life’s ups and downs alone.
You’ll fight together and celebrate success together.
There are times when you can do a little something for yourself too to ease loneliness.
For example holding a journal can really help stabilize your emotions and get you back having a different view on loneliness
And in those times of bizarre and sudden circumstances, every little bit helps in anchoring your routine and feeling just happy and joyful despite al the ambiant mess.
So here are some thought on how journaling can really help mail things back to balance and joy
It really doesn’t matter what your issue is; if you want to overcome it, you can find a way to use journaling to help.
You can set up a particular type of journal like a gratitude journal to help yourself become more thankful for what you do have, remember the little things that made you laugh be happy and sereine and you can also keep a bullet journal and set goals to overcome the loneliness youíre experiencing if more social connections will do it. The possibilities are truly endless.
What is nice about keeping a journal though is that
- it allows You to Explore Your Thoughts and Feelings
Journaling can help to simply focus on writing expressively your thoughts and feelings surrounding the loneliness that you are feeling. If you can write about each part of your feelings, and when you first noticed them, you may identify the core cause of the feelings. When you do that, you can develop a plan to solve the problem.
- Gives You a Way to Express Your Thoughts and Feelings
Writing is a time-honored way of expressing thoughts and feelings safely. You never have to let anyone read it. You can write it down in the form of letters to people, or to yourself, or even to someone you donít know that you keep for yourself when youíre done but completed to get it out in the light to study by you.
- Provides a Way to Understand Your Thoughts and Feelings
Sometimes you may not even know what you are feeling. It can be hard to understand and express what we feel even to ourselves. But when you focus on writing it down, it can help you understand everything in a new way from a new direction that you may not have considered.
- Helps Foster Social Connections
It might seem like a strange notion to consider, but writing can even help you foster social connections. The main reason is that as you read through what youíve written, youíre going to discover ways to overcome your situation to find the healthy social connections you need.
- Helps You See the Big Picture More Easily
Looking back at the things youíve written over time about any topic can provide insight into the situation that you never saw coming. Thatís because having the journal to look back on provides a way to see the bigger picture. You may feel super-lonely today, but itís still less than yesterday, which lets you know itís going to get even better from here.
- Provides a Means to Understand and Organize Your Thoughts
Writing things down, especially when you choose a particular method like the bullet journal, will help you get your thoughts down in an organized and useful way. When your thoughts are a jumble, you might not see the real point but when they’re organized, it makes all the difference. For example, in writing it all down, you may realize that your loneliness is really due to being with the wrong partner who does not value you.
- You wíll Sharpen Your Observation Skills
Once you start writing regularly and itís become a habit, something amazing will happen. Your observation skills will be sharper, and youíll have an easier time coming up with descriptive and expressive words to use in your journal. This is going to lead to even more breakthroughs due to having more clarity.
- Focuses Your Appreciation Skills
Something funny happens when writing in a journal, even if itís not specifically a gratitude journal per se. What happens is that as youíre writing (even if youíre upset), youíll become calmer – especially when you read it back. Youíll become grateful for what you do have that is positive in your life, even if itís simply the ability to breathe in and out today.
If you want to combat loneliness thinking it is robbing you of your natural Joy , consider writing about and exploring why you feel lonely.
You also should remember to read the definition of “loneliness” to ensure that this is what you are really experiencing. No one ever needs to be lonely, even when they are alone, if they know how to work through their thoughts and feelings.
Journaling can help with that.
Remember : The only constant is Change! That Nothing Is Permanent
“THIS TOO SHALL PASS”
Nothing in life is permanent. Fortunately, nothing in life is permanent! Let’s state that again, this will pass.
During periods of extreme happiness and joy, thinking about the temporary nature of each season in life is not something we like to dwell on.
On the contrary, keeping this truth in mind during the low times can be very beneficial. Whatever you are going through, no matter how bad it may be, it WILL pass.
In fact, most of the difficult times you experience in life will end without any extra effort on your part. It is so easy to get into the mentality that we have to put forth an immense amount of effort to make something bad go away.
Even though this is sometimes the case, most of the time, TIME is the only remedy for tough situations. If you want to maximize your joy during difficult times, remember that your situation is not the way things are, only the way they are RIGHT NOW.
Base Your Happiness On Yourself, As Carefree as a Young Child.
Since we have discussed how life is divided into highs and lows and the fact that nothing will lasts forever, this leads to another thing to keep in mind during the best AND the worst periods.
If you want to have joy on a consistent basis, your joy absolutely cannot be dictated by your circumstances.
If you let every good thing that happens to you leave you soaring on cloud nine and every negative situation send you crashing to earth, you will go through life in a state of emotional exhaustion! Stable, consistent, sustainable joy can only be created and found within yourself.
Life is far less about what happens to you than it is how you react to it. You are in charge of how you feel. Don’t fall into the routine of letting happiness get to your head and failure to your heart.
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